How to flirt with a girl: 8 tips that'll make you a natural


The French flatter and the Brits are crass. So says a social anthropologist in this reviews on how khổng lồ flirt across cultural boundaries in Europe.

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Brits are boorish, the French flatter, Scandinavians play it cool, & Italians get intimate. Everyone flirts, but how lớn flirt depends largely on our culture and a host of unspoken rules. “Basically, we are descended from a long line of successful flirts; it is hard-wired into our brains,” social anthropologist Kate Fox told Agence France-Presse. “If we didn’t initiate contact with the opposite sex, then we wouldn’t reproduce; the species would die out.”

Whether you’re dating online or treating a steady date khổng lồ a lãng mạn night out on Valentine’s Day, building a relationship at any stage requires a little bit of flirting. Anyone searching for a soulmate or just for a bit of fun may welcome some guidelines to lớn help sharpen their skills. Be ready for a bit of banter và eyelash battering all in the hope of catching one of cupid’s arrows.

But beware of injury lớn tender parts. The subtle rules of flirting vary greatly across Europe; foreigners are often unaware if they are being courted or insulted. Tread carefully when it comes lớn flirting with (or being in a relationship with) someone from a different culture; British women, used to the alcohol-fueled pub environment back home, are taken aback during trips across the Channel khổng lồ France unused to a sudden rush of compliments and xuất hiện flirtation.

How to flirt in France

“Frenchmen are less sexually obvious, there is less banter, & they are more direct. They’ll say cheesy things lượt thích ‘you have really nice eyes’,” said one young journalist. Although, as dating expert Jean-Baptiste Trannoy says, such compliments work well not just in France; perhaps we can all take note.


It’s also perfectly acceptable in France for men to approach a stranger in the street và ask them out; this is even at the risk of refusal. But it’s also important to be aware of ongoing debates about street harassment in French cities, says Jean-Baptiste, & such approaches should be done in a tactful manner; cat-calling is definitely not the same as flirting.

While draguer is French for ‘picking someone up’ or ‘hitting on someone’, the word séduction is a faux ami. It can mean persuading someone to go to bed with you; however, it’s also refers khổng lồ simply charming other people. The French are always trying khổng lồ seduce everyone in this second sense. This can mean that people often flirt in a casual, good-natured way without a sexual proposition necessarily behind it. Of course, the tricky part for foreigners is learning khổng lồ tell the difference.

How khổng lồ flirt in the United Kingdom

In Britain, alcohol drives flirtation; this masks fears of intimacy & rejection. That said, as dating expert Jean-Baptiste Trannoy reminds us of the reference ‘Dutch courage’, it would be fair to say that alcohol-induced flirting is common in many parts of the world. Cheers!

“British males are either reticent và awkward or boorish và crass. He usually consumes too much alcohol. English male flirting tends to lớn be very circuitous; it involves a lot of insults rather than compliments,” said Kate Fox. “I’ve had khổng lồ explain lots of times khổng lồ foreign friends that ‘silly cow’ can really be a term of endearment,” added the Oxford-based researcher và author of Watching the English: The Hidden Rules of English Behavior.

Flirting with the Dutch

In the Netherlands, touching strangers, even just a friendly hand on the shoulder at a bar, is a big mistake. Regardless of culture, says Jean-Baptiste, touching too early during any interaction can trigger defense mechanisms. Approaching or complimenting a stranger in the street can also reap the same reaction in the Netherlands. That said, Jean-Baptiste says his experiences in Amsterdam are positive; they result in a date more often than not.

Cantina, a woman from the United States who works in The Hague with three Dutch boyfriends under her belt, says that “in the Netherlands, you have eye contact and approach men. They don’t approach you. At home, you just stand there & they come lớn you. Here, you have khổng lồ be more aggressive,” says Cantina.

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How to flirt in Sweden

In Sweden, detecting signs of flirtation is a difficult task. Two strangers rarely exchange glances, a wink, or a telling smile. But come the weekend, Swedes, both men and women, let loose. Don’t expect sophisticated romance, though, as it’s not unusual for an inebriated Swede to immediately ask the woman who has caught his eye if she wants lớn have sex.

On the other hand, dating expert Jean-Baptiste Trannoy thinks subtle flirting is well-received by Swedes because it’s uncommon. Perceived value in any dating situation comes from a large part of scarcity: someone doing exactly what everybody else is doing does not set themselves apart, nor create interest.

Flirting with Italians

In Italy, men & women embrace with ease at each meeting. As such, young Italian makes see foreign women as fair game; long, traditional courtships with Italian women frustrate these young men.


Even though bottom-pinching is a thing of the past, women sitting on their own in a Rome café are likely lớn attract more than one rowdy ciao bella. Foreign women may find it hard to shake off their unwanted beau.

How to flirt in Germany

The Germans – ever anxious to lớn get it right – have taken things one step further; there are now several schools offering individual or group lessons in flirting etiquette.

For around €125, students can take part in a weekend-long flirtation workshop at the Be2 school. The instructors Justine Lethem và Volker Dottie claim their “knowledge of flirting comes as much from their scientific as well as their practical experience.” Similar workshops are held in many European countries.

What makes the world go round

It’s one thing lớn ignore cultural stereotypes while flirting with a stranger, but don’t take it to lớn the opposite extreme. Kate Fox said the idea of taking lessons in what should come naturally was not a bad one. “After all, eating is natural, but we don’t all have good table manners,” she says with a laugh. For example, knowing when an innocent flirt has crossed the boundaries into sexual harassment is not always obvious. However, Fox says that as soon as you begin khổng lồ get negative signals, it’s time to back off.

A sociological study by the Czech labor ministry finds that most people perceive sexual harassment as being “a concept artificially imported from abroad. Conversations with hidden erotic meaning, provocative allusions, and even rude stories are all part of what makes the world go round,” the study concluded.