Carolyn hax: dealing with a sister's flirting

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So I sometimes try to talk to friends of my sister which I am attracted to và most of the time she tells me not to vị it. I once got into an argument with her after flirting with one of her close friends, and since then I haven"t communicated with her friend. I"m just wondering if it"s something that I shouldn"t do? Is this wrong on my side? The way I look at it, I don"t see anything wrong by doing this, I just don"t know why she is acting this way.

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Edited January 22, 2017 by Patrick121

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Here"s the issue. If there is involvement or if either you or her begins khổng lồ feel uncomfortable around each other because one isn"t interested or maybe you were and then now you"re not, then your sister has a problem because her friend doesn"t want lớn accidentally bump into you. So she DOES have a legitimate concern. It is HER friend and it can & will mess up HER social life when her friend either says "No, I"m not coming over because I don"t want to be around your creepy brother" or "No, I can"t bear lớn ever see him again because he broke my heart."


Here"s the issue. If there is involvement or if either you or her begins lớn feel uncomfortable around each other because one isn"t interested or maybe you were and then now you"re not, then your sister has a problem because her friend doesn"t want khổng lồ accidentally bump into you. So she DOES have a legitimate concern. It is HER friend & it can and will mess up HER social life when her friend either says "No, I"m not coming over because I don"t want to be around your creepy brother" or "No, I can"t bear lớn ever see him again because he broke my heart."

Flirt if you want to date one.

If you vì not see any of them as GF material then don"t flirt.

If there is one of them that you want lớn date then tell your sister.


Not necessarily. The woman in question may desire the flirting, but the sister may not want to deal with the potential fallout. The third tiệc nhỏ (sister) has a conflict of interest.

 

My coworker (before his marriage) slept with most of his sister"s friends. At the time, all of these women welcomed his advances. His sister didn"t like dealing with the resulting drama, so she kept telling him khổng lồ stop. He never listened.


Not necessarily. The woman in question may desire the flirting, but the sister may not want to giảm giá with the potential fallout. The third buổi tiệc ngọt (sister) has a conflict of interest.

 


 

This is why your sister is pissed at your advances on her friends. Stop it. Go out and find girls on your own, stop using your sister"s social circle as a potential dating pool.


Think of it this way....would you like one of your friends hitting on your sister?? & wanting khổng lồ bang her?


Honestly this hasn"t happened too often, I"d day with two different friends of hers. If I ever feel that they are not into it, then I stop right away, otherwise it would get creepy. I would never vày this in order khổng lồ only have sex with them, I think it"ll make things weird & awkward. On the occasions that I have spoken like this, it"s because I genuinely liked them and is for a a relationship & nothing else.

 

Maybe she thinks that if it doesn"t work out, then it will make things awkward with her friends. If this isn"t ok, then I"ll stop right away and find my own way.

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Edited January 22, 2017 by Patrick121

It may also deeply embarrass her. To lớn get an idea, think about if she flirted with some of your friends.


I don"t think you are doing anything wrong as long as the friends vị not mind. It is not up lớn your sister who you date and you are bound to lớn find at least some of her friends attractive. She is probably just struggling with the idea that her brother is growing up or feels you are both rivals for her friends" attention.


My brother used to hit on all of my và my sister"s friends. It was very annoying! But... The problem was that all but one of my friends liked him back. They were all for it so that made me irritated. Lượt thích really irritated, especially since I knew he would bởi nothing but dog them out (which I warned them of but they didn"t listen) plus he"s just disgusting. They had lớn learn the hard way. Luckily, we all remained friends in the end though because I did warn them and I also told them along the way that I didn"t want lớn hear anything about the goings-on between them and don"t expect me khổng lồ spy on him for them either.


Honestly this hasn"t happened too often, I"d day with two different friends of hers. If I ever feel that they are not into it, then I stop right away, otherwise it would get creepy. I would never do this in order khổng lồ only have sex with them, I think it"ll make things weird và awkward. On the occasions that I have spoken lượt thích this, it"s because I genuinely liked them và is for a a relationship và nothing else.

 

Maybe she thinks that if it doesn"t work out, then it will make things awkward with her friends. If this isn"t ok, then I"ll stop right away & find my own way.


 

Exactly. So leave her friends alone and go out & find girls for yourself.

 

I disagree that you have a right of passage khổng lồ flirt with them.

 

Leave them alone and respect your sister"s request.


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