How to get rid of hiccups: 26 remedies that can actually help

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Sarah Regan is a Spirituality và Relationships Writer, và a registered yoga instructor. She received her bachelor"s in broadcasting and mass communication from SUNY Oswego, and lives in Buffalo, New York.

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According to lớn psychotherapist và relationship expert Ken Page, LCSW, we often tell ourselves stories that something about us is stopping us from receiving love. "This myth that we hold dear to lớn our hearts," he says, "causes us to lớn enact cycles of pain for ourselves & others. Và that gets terribly triggered by people who cannot accept us và love us for who we are."


To that end, focusing on loving and accepting yourself—even và especially the parts of ourselves we feel shame toward—is crucial. "The degree lớn which we embrace và cherish those parts of ourselves (not just accept them but actually treasure, dignify, and cherish!) is the degree that we become romantically and sexually attracted to people who are available, kind, và decent," Page says.


Spend some time with the people in your life who lift you up. Not only will it take your mind off things, but it will remind you how good it feels to lớn be with people who value you. "We need to lớn look khổng lồ the people who know & love us, to help us not keep enacting patterns of reaching out over và over again khổng lồ someone who"s not available và not good for us." If you have a pattern of codependent behavior, Page also adds Codependents Anonymous is a great program.


According khổng lồ sex & relationship therapist Stephen Snyder, M.D., sometimes it can help to ask yourself, What exactly does this person mean to me? "Commonly," he says, "it"s security, or status, or feeling accepted or loved or understood."

Then you want khổng lồ ask yourself, Did my actual experience with this person really deliver the meanings it was supposed to? "For most of us, in most relationships, the answer will be, "Well, yes and no,"" Snyder adds. It"s not uncommon khổng lồ romanticize the past.


This one might go without saying, but if you"re thinking about someone nonstop, there"s a chance you might be cyberstalking them a bit. Make it easier on yourself & just pull the plug. Unfollow them, unfriend them, delete your text conversations, etc. When it comes lớn moving on, the no-contact rule is always the way to lớn go.

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Along with the social media, you probably want lớn get rid of anything that reminds you of them in general, lượt thích souvenirs or mementos from your relationship. According lớn Page, people in Alcoholics Anonymous are told to lớn watch out for people, places, và things that make them want lớn drink. "If you"re trying to lớn let go of someone, you need lớn watch out for the people, places, và things that trigger your craving for that person."


When you"re feeling the urge to lớn reach out, rather than acting on impulse, get curious about the emotions that are coming up for you. Are you feeling lonely? Abandoned? Try redirecting that energy into something more productive, lượt thích going for a brisk walk or run or doing some yoga. "The most problematic relationships are often the most difficult to lớn get over," Page adds. "We keep wanting to lớn go back and make things right, but this is usually a bad idea."


Journaling is incredibly helpful, not only for channeling creative or anxious energy but also for reflecting và learning from what you"re going through. Consider using the questions in No. 4 as prompts to lớn get you started, or reflect on No. 1, No. 2, or anything else from this list that resonates with you. Identify & observe your feelings: " are useful for informing you about the world around you," Snyder notes, "but they"re not totally reliable—and often not objectively helpful. When that happens, you may need lớn gently show them who"s boss."

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Reclaim your own gifts và talents


Oftentimes when people become obsessive over someone, there"s a tendency khổng lồ abandon oneself. This can look like being overly nice or explanatory to lớn avoid rejection, feelings of inadequacy, và giving someone far too much influence over your emotional state. But Page notes reclaiming our own individuality, or the "gifts deep inside us that we have looked to lớn the world khổng lồ validate," is a "powerful process of healing and transformation that actually changes our attractions."


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Remind yourself why it didn"t work out


In the really hard moments, particularly those where we may find ourselves romanticizing the past, as Snyder notes, it"s in your best interest khổng lồ remind yourself of why things didn"t or haven"t worked out. "Most often, we idealize the people we miss," he says. "And we overlook the fact that the meanings we attached to the relationship weren"t always gratified as much as we would have liked."

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Discern between intuition and obsession


Now, perhaps you"ve gotten this far and something in your gut is still pushing you lớn think about this person. That"s something lớn pay attention to: "Maybe we can"t get someone out of our minds because there"s something really incredibly special there," Page notes. "Maybe those obstacles don"t matter that much—maybe this person really is worth committing to, or there are problems in the relationship that neither of you have fully worked on."

Give yourself time to think and process, and in time, you can decide if it"s worth reaching out. "If this is a relationship that could be good," Page says, "try putting both feet in & giving it all you have. Maybe the fact that you can"t stop thinking about this person is for a good reason."


What does it mean when you can"t get someone off your mind? 


In a sense, you can be "addicted," or at the very least dependent, on a person. In one small 2010 study, subjects who had just gone through a breakup but were still in love showed just how true that is: When they saw photos of their ex, the brain"s reward system released dopamine, the neurotransmitter that plays a big role in the early stages of love and addiction. This cycle can result in resistance lớn let go.

According to Snyder, "Often, it means you don"twantto get that person off your mind—most often because the thought of them is extremely meaningful to lớn you."

Page adds that the points above about romanticizing the past (and even the person) are still relevant. "Best to lớn realize you"re probably idealizing the person you missand not remembering thereality. When people get back together after a breakup, they often suddenly remember all the things that made the relationship problematic."

And FYI: There are no grounds for the idea that if you can"t stop thinking about someone, they"re thinking about you too.

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How to lớn stop having feelings for someone


Maybe the better question is, can you stop loving someone willingly? Snyder thinks so, but it takes time.

"It can be hard to imagine, in the moment, that your feelings will ever fade," he says. "You might even notwantthem lớn fade. But feelings vày change over time. That"s just the nature of things. You"ll change over the months and years, and so will the person you have feelings for. None of us stay the same."


The takeaway

Take care of yourself—mind, body, và spirit; connect with friends và family; remember your worth; trust that love is out there for you; and of course, come back lớn this list if/when that person pops up in your mind.

When we vị these things, we mở cửa ourselves up to attract the right person.

"Until we close the door on those relationships with people who cpu away at our sense of self-worth," Page says, "we can never xuất hiện the door to lớn the new ones, into a new life where we finally vì find healthy love."